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Hiding between mama’s legs

June 24, 2017

I was shy. It was no surprise that I was trying to mush my 5-year-old body and bright, strawberry-blonde hair between my mama’s short legs so that i could disappear. But I wasn’t that small anymore. The fit didn’t work, although I sure did try. 

Hi! I’m Dede, she exclaimed in her excited, mouse-like 5 1/2-year-old voice. She was older than me. More confident. She probably would have been more confident than me even if she was younger. It was just her way. 

It was the start of a beautiful friendship. 

My son is the same age now. He’ll be starting kindergarten in the Fall. He’s not as shy as I was, although sometimes he’ll let me know in advance that he might be shy in an upcoming situation. He warns me. When we get there, he isn’t, in fact, shy. 

Having one child means he gets all our focus, our ideas, our attention. It also means he spends more time interacting with adults and being in situations that are not kid-focused. 

I hope this teaches him to be a strong communicator, to feel comfortable in most situations and to know that sometimes it’s ok to feel shy. But stepping out of your comfort zone and accepting an outstretched hand can be the best choice to make. 


June 23, 2017

There is so much depth of relationship in this video of two elephants racing to the rescue of a calf who had fallen into the water.

The speed, responsiveness, teamwork and care with which they rescue this baby is as obvious as it would be of humans acting in a way to save one of their own. There’s no hesitation. There’s no debate. There’s no second guessing. There is only action.

Notice also the elephant behind the barrier who starts pacing in a frenetic way as soon as he/she notices the activity.

This is love. This is family.

When you want it to mean something

June 22, 2017

Advice can be completely general and interpreted as specific by a person with no objectivity. 

You’ve had trouble in love. This has the broadest implications yet can be perceived as a piercing insight by a lover recently scorned or left behind. 

You are at a crossroads. Well, aren’t we all at most points in our lives. It could be major or a minor blip. 

Are you led by your heart or your mind?

What are you worth?

June 21, 2017

“No one will ever pay you what you’re worth. They’ll pay you what you think you’re worth. And you control their thinking.”

– Casey Brown, pricing consultant and Ted Talk presenter


In a message targeted to women, Casey Brown encourages women to define what they are worth. Then the hard part comes. Sharing that with the people who would pay you. That is how you will earn more money. And that is one way to even out the gender pay gap. 

You don’t have to apologize. You can be as confident in your pricing as you are in your work.  And don’t keep it a secret. 

Define your worth. 

Tell people. 

Earn more. 

It seems so straightforward. It is never easy.  It is necessary. No one will do it for you. Have you tried this? How did it go for you?

Will you try this? Good luck.  


June 20, 2017

After a brief hiatus, Crappier but Cheaper has a catwalk discovery that resembles a DIY tightrope walk. Intrigued? 

Yes men

June 19, 2017

Oh, it feels good to be lauded. To be praised. To have people tell you you are doing such a good job.

Is there danger in surrounding yourself with people who agree publicly and vehemently with you at every turn?

We’ve all seen it: the leader is isolated from reality, surrounded by a small group of people who deliver the good news and hide the bad. His entire worldview is distorted, controlled by those who are feeding his perceptions. He thinks these people are protecting him. Watching his back.

Yes men don’t take responsibility.

Yes men won’t stop you from doing something stupid.

True leaders invite dissension and contrary opinions.

True leaders welcome challenging questions.

If no one is willing to take a stand against a leader, decisions will never be fair for everyone. There is no universal perspective.

Oh father

June 18, 2017

You keep us safe. You watch our backs. You finish our food. 

You clean his cuts. You kiss his bumps. Mine, too. 

You fix his toys when they get broken. You leave him pennies he thinks are treasures. 

He makes you mad. You get upset. He makes his angry face at you. He cracks a joke or giggles with glee, and your face lights up with a smile like no one else can elicit from you. 

He thinks the world of you. And I do, too. 

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