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Run to read

December 2, 2016

Boys need to run in order to learn how to read. It’s simple, really, and explained well in this Time article. 

I see my 5 year old running around like he’s on fire. His energy level is consistently at max speed, even when he insists he’s tired. He maintains it until bedtime when he often falls asleep instantly. 

I get exhausted just watching him. 

But when he starts kindergarten next year, I want him to excel. Like any parent would. I don’t know yet how active he’ll be at his new school. It makes sense to me that running around and all types of physical activity gets the brain and blood flowing and let’s boys expel energy. So when the time does come to sit and learn, he might even be ready for a little quiet time. 

Note to self: Remember this post. 

Under pressure 

December 2, 2016

A race car driver knows a thing or two about pressure, and this one has solid advice for skills that build children into strong adults. 

Read this article in Inc about pressure and hard work and why it’s important to not be afraid of it. 

A nighttime story

November 29, 2016

Beck was a sweet, playful boy who never wanted to go to sleep. One night, he was up late and would not go to sleep. It was so late that the sky was a deep dark purple, the stars shone bright and the moon was high in the sky.

His parents told him it was time to go to sleep. He was tired and it was too late. 

Beck yawned a giant yawn.

“Aha,” exclaimed mama. You are tired!

“I’m not tired,” Beck replied. “That’s my arm, my arm is tired.”

His parents looked at him with doubt in their eyes. 

He yawned a yawn so big you could see his epiglottis. 

“Aha,” tata cried. “You’re tired.”

“I’m not tired,” Beck replied. “That’s my elbow, my elbow is tired.”

Eyebrows raised. 

Yawwwn and a burst of warm air flew out of Beck’s mouth. 

His parents just looked at him with knowing smiles. 

“I’m not tired,” Beck replied. “That’s my tummy, my tummy is tired.”

Tears for a clown

November 22, 2016

How to deal with crying at work. what to do if you need to cry at work. What will crying at work do to your career? It’s a surprisingly well-covered topic by sites as wide ranging as Fortune, Huffington Post, PopSugar and Time

It’s generally targeting women readers and never described as a good thing. 

In fact, per a 2016 The Atlantic article, “In her survey of 700 people, Anne Kreamer, author of It’s Always Personal: Navigating Emotion in the New Workplace, found that in the past year, 41 percent of women admitted to crying at work, but only 9 percent of men did.”

I’d take a gander there’s no proud author writing about how to cry at work to get what you want. I haven’t yet come across a how-to, as in how to cry at work to get ahead. Or, how to nab that promotion with a proper meltdown. Or even, 5 ways crying at work will get you more money. 

Yet, somehow that’s a piece of advice I was given. Yes, a professional man gave a grown ass woman a tip to “cry if you want an office.” Because that might make it harder for the boss man to say no. 

I was no entry level  career gal when this bombshell was dropped on me. I might have been devastated if I was. He was no crusty old timer out of touch with today’s issues. 

I felt outrage. Anger. Surprise. I didn’t reply harshly enough. I didn’t report him to anyone. After clarifying with a shocked, what did you just say?! He explained his theory further, neither embarrassed nor apologetic. I gave a sarcastic retort and never looked at him nor spoke of or to him the same way again. I doubt he noticed. 

I could handle it, take it for the utter bullshit it was. It didn’t wreck me or impact my career in any way. But he was foolish. And wrong to say it. And I should have told him so. 

#womensupportingwomen

Equal pay 

November 21, 2016

Thank you, The New Yorker. 

Life’s too short 

November 19, 2016

…to be unhappy at work every day

….to be complacent

At coffee with a former co-worker recently, this ideas rang through me. And they are the high points of why he and I are FORMER co-workers. I chose another path. Did he knowingly choose unhappiness and complacency?

He didn’t seem any happier at coffee than he had when we worked together, so the tides had not turned for him. He also wasn’t actively looking for work, although he was threatening it. 

I’m going to start working on my resume, he said. 

You should! (I didn’t skip a beat.) send it to me, I’ll review it. It’s been more than a month. I haven’t seen a thing. 

Choices. Does he like to be unhappy? Is it too hard to make a change? Is complacency actually easier when unhappiness weighs on your shoulders? Does he feel he does not deserve better? Can I shake him and change his mind?

Do you know someone like this? Are you him? Can you make a different choice today that will lead you down a path toward happiness?

Dichotomy 

November 18, 2016

The confidence of living life with the knowledge gained from lessons learned mired down with the physical insecurity of seeing new wrinkles in the mirror and an aging face facing down gravity that doesn’t look like you feel. 

The enthusiasm to change the world because you’ve seen how grand it could be made heavy by the day’s burdens and thoughts that maybe tomorrow, after a good night’s sleep. 

The motivation to share your experiences and heart to generously fill the needs of strangers lacking love, resources and attention spurned by potential antipathy and not even knowing where to start. 

Which choices sound better? 

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