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When you want it to mean something

June 22, 2017

Advice can be completely general and interpreted as specific by a person with no objectivity. 

You’ve had trouble in love. This has the broadest implications yet can be perceived as a piercing insight by a lover recently scorned or left behind. 

You are at a crossroads. Well, aren’t we all at most points in our lives. It could be major or a minor blip. 

Are you led by your heart or your mind?

What are you worth?

June 21, 2017

“No one will ever pay you what you’re worth. They’ll pay you what you think you’re worth. And you control their thinking.”

– Casey Brown, pricing consultant and Ted Talk presenter


In a message targeted to women, Casey Brown encourages women to define what they are worth. Then the hard part comes. Sharing that with the people who would pay you. That is how you will earn more money. And that is one way to even out the gender pay gap. 

You don’t have to apologize. You can be as confident in your pricing as you are in your work.  And don’t keep it a secret. 

Define your worth. 

Tell people. 

Earn more. 

It seems so straightforward. It is never easy.  It is necessary. No one will do it for you. Have you tried this? How did it go for you?

Will you try this? Good luck.  


June 20, 2017

After a brief hiatus, Crappier but Cheaper has a catwalk discovery that resembles a DIY tightrope walk. Intrigued? 

Yes men

June 19, 2017

Oh, it feels good to be lauded. To be praised. To have people tell you you are doing such a good job.

Is there danger in surrounding yourself with people who agree publicly and vehemently with you at every turn?

We’ve all seen it: the leader is isolated from reality, surrounded by a small group of people who deliver the good news and hide the bad. His entire worldview is distorted, controlled by those who are feeding his perceptions. He thinks these people are protecting him. Watching his back.

Yes men don’t take responsibility.

Yes men won’t stop you from doing something stupid.

True leaders invite dissension and contrary opinions.

True leaders welcome challenging questions.

If no one is willing to take a stand against a leader, decisions will never be fair for everyone. There is no universal perspective.

Oh father

June 18, 2017

You keep us safe. You watch our backs. You finish our food. 

You clean his cuts. You kiss his bumps. Mine, too. 

You fix his toys when they get broken. You leave him pennies he thinks are treasures. 

He makes you mad. You get upset. He makes his angry face at you. He cracks a joke or giggles with glee, and your face lights up with a smile like no one else can elicit from you. 

He thinks the world of you. And I do, too. 


June 17, 2017

The end of this school year marks the beginning of my son’s official school education. Kindergarten begins in August. 

An ending. A beginning. 

He had an extra year of preschool play that kids just 20 days  older did not automatically get. It has served him well. He is no longer a baby. He is focused, imaginative. He is ready. 

An ending. A beginning. 

There will be no other like him in our lives. I’m talking of more than his unique soul and being. There will be no more preschool for us either. This will be our first kindergarten as parents. 

An ending. A beginning. 


June 16, 2017

My nana used to tell us kids this all the time. We were curious. We wanted to know what the grown ups were up to.

“Hey! MYOB!” She’d say emphatically and with a smile. Almost always, as I recall, it was followed up with a question. “Do you know what that means?”

And, as I recall, she didn’t usually wait for nor did she care about our answer.

MYOB! Mind your own business!

(Business could be used interchangeably with beeswax, as in “mind your own beeswax!)

That, very non-Stoic thing is what today’s The Daily Stoic brought to my mind. So thank you, daily stoic, for raising a sweet memory of my silly nana.

Here’s the more serious version. I might stick with MYOB.

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