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Some jet lag and a few glasses of wine 

September 20, 2017

I didn’t catch much on my fishing expedition.  A few blows to the ego, a bunch of wine, beer and a splash of jet lag. Nothing you can cook up for dinner. 

It turned out to be for good. What started as a brief blogging break with no plan quickly became a forced digital outage. Five devices, three wifi logins, shitty connection. It was good in the end. 

Seven days. No incessant smartphone checking. Emails a few nights. Some reading. Some wine. Some laying around and doing nothing. Days spent doing vacation-type activities. 

There was no work imperative. A proper vacation. There’s nothing like it. Even if the lake water was green. Ahhh!

6-year-old Jokes

September 19, 2017

I need to go to the dollar store, I said at breakfast. 

“Why,” my 3-days-from-being-six-years-old son asked. 

Because I want to see if they have little bags to put gift bags in for your birthday party. 

“So you want to buy some dollars, huh?”

He’s gonna grow into his comedy skills, but we’re getting somewhere. 

Even without ice cream

September 18, 2017


Remember before when you told me if I go with you to get your haircut, we can get ice cream after?

Well I want to go with you. 

But even if we don’t get ice cream, I don’t care. Because I still want to go with you. I want to be with you. Because I love you. 

Gone fishing

August 11, 2017

This is such a cop out. Yet today, it is all I can manage. 

Changing your thinking for worse

August 10, 2017

Seth Godin blogged today that seeing is believing. It’s about the negative impact of having our brain influenced by what we see on TV and what we are accessing on the internet. Its the reason many of suffer from information fatigue, but it’s not just tiresome. It changes the way we think.

It’s the reason that I choose to let my son watch videos – cartoons, yes, but I aim for ones with some level of educational value. And why on the rare occasions we do watch TV (I mean we could not miss the Golden State Warriors in the finals again), we aim to stay away from the commercials, or at least talk about them as we watch them.

Discourse, discussion, talking about things helps the mind transition to new information. I believe this is true for all of us, but especially for young, more impressionable minds that are taking things in  for the first time. It’s the reason I agree with Seth, who writes that: “Every time I see a toddler in a stroller with an internet device in hand, I shudder.”

These things may not affect our personalities, but they affect our behavior. From an article in Psychology Today:

But what was more interesting was the effect that watching negative news had on peoples’ worries. We asked each participant to tell us what their main worry was at the time, and we then asked them to think about this worry during a structured interview. We found that those people who had watched the negative news bulletin spent more time thinking and talking about their worry and were more likely to catastrophise their worry than people in the other two groups. Catastrophizing is when you think about a worry so persistently that you begin to make it seem much worse than it was at the outset and much worse than it is in reality – a tendency to make ‘mountains out of molehills’!

I’m not writing this as an attempt to convince people to change their actions. It’s worthwhile to be aware of and to consider, every time you turn on the TV or open the internet to read news. It’s the reason I won’t read news first thing in the morning and limit my news intake. I believe it’s important to understand and know about what’s going on in the world, but doomsday news and non-stop coverage are too much for any brain to consume.

Unconditional trust

August 9, 2017

Unconditional trust is a sacred thing. If you hold it dear, you will be rewarded. Trust is the reward itself. 

I see unconditional trust as that of a child for her parents. An old parent for his child caregiver. It’s cyclical. 

My son, not quite 6, has unconditional trust for me. It’s waning in some areas. Like with food. When he simply doesn’t want to eat something, nothing I say can convince him. 

But him losing parts of this trust is good. He is gaining more for himself. As his confidence as an individual grows, he won’t need to hang on to his stronghold in me. Although I hope he never forgets that it’s there. 


August 8, 2017

Some people have a way of making things they do important to other people. Or is it the audience who makes it important?

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