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Incompetence

July 14, 2017

Why Do So Many Incompetent Men Become Leaders?

I am so glad this headline was written by a man. If written by a woman, if would be perceived quite differently. The author writes:

There are three popular explanations for the clear under-representation of women in management, namely: (1) they are not capable; (2) they are not interested; (3) they are both interested and capable but unable to break the glass-ceiling: an invisible career barrier, based on prejudiced stereotypes, that prevents women from accessing the ranks of power.

The reasons for much of this, according to the author, is “our inability to discern between confidence and competence.”

This article was written in 2013. Would it look any different if written today? A quick scan of the news headlines, particularly those coming out of Silicon Valley would leave you with a solid ‘no’ answer.

So nothing has changed? If the author is right, he is talking about human nature, and it’s then no surprise we are still having the same conversations.

Is this a matter of changing behavior or human nature? What happens now?

Use your illusion

July 13, 2017

If the way you see the world isn’t helping you make the changes you seek to make, consider seeing the world differently.

This Seth Godin post feels aligned with emails from The Daily Stoic and serves as a useful reminder for me. Does it do the same for you?

The idea that we tell ourselves stories about experiences, our path, our interactions…about everything that happens to us. We take them as truth, as gospel, as “this happened to me.” But it’s all essentially made up. And that means it can be remade.

As soon as we decide we want to tell ourselves a different story, we can alter our path forward.

I’m thinking about what I can remake today. What story can you tell yourself differently to change your perception and your course?

 

Overheard 

July 12, 2017

“We’ll never die until our life is over. And our life is not over now.”

“I cut Rainbow Dash in half!”

“Hold on, I’m not done drawing my hot lava wand.”

There’s the joy of hearing the giggles. And then there’s the fun of listening in on the imaginations of two almost 6-year-olds playing freely with one another. Oh so fun!

 

 

Certain things feel impossible to explain

July 11, 2017

I wrote the other day about the challenges for me and many others I know to have any kind of political conversation. And then I found this piece that explains so much about how I feel.

I Don’t Know How To Explain To You That You Should Care About Other People

The author writes about why I can’t even entertain the idea, most days, of even having the rational conversations I believe are needed in today’s climate. Because how can I explain to others who don’t seem to agree with what I believe is necessary for us to exist as one human kind together here on this planet? 


The political discussions about taxes and trade policies, immigration and health care are symptoms. The illness is much broader and a much more diffficult thesis on which we can agree. Or disagree. 

Riddle me this: if we don’t agree in a basic philosophy that humans and citizens sharing a country and communities should care for one another, how can we agree on tax policies, healthcare that takes care of everyone and so, so much more?
 

Milestones 

July 10, 2017

I am the mother of a preschool graduate. I am the mother of an almost kindergarten student. 

This weekend passed an important milestone, and I almost didn’t even have a happy/sad cry. 

He is ready for the next phase. He will be sad about losing pieces of what he’s had, but he’s ready. And once he gets used to it, there are many things he will love. 

He will most certainly miss the safe and warm preschool environment. The kind and supportive teachers, and the play, play, play. But he is ready for what’s next, even if he will say he doesn’t want it. 

This is the end. Of him being my little baby bug. Of me hanging on to vestiges of him even being my baby anymore. Of me being able to solve most of his problems. Of him playing all day long. Of him being in an environment where being different is never mocked.

This is the beginning. Of his school career. Of a new stage in his independence. Of him learning to read and write, and all the magic that accompanies that. Of his path to becoming a man, one that is paved with hardships, difficult people and challenges, along with joy and celebration. 

It will be good, and it will be exciting. But first, I need to mourn just a little bit. 

Dance it out

July 9, 2017

Sometimes, what you need is an impromptu dance party. Shake your booty. Shake out the crazies, the angst, or, if you are a 5 3/4-year-old-boy, shake out the sillies.

This week, we danced to Bjork’s Human Behavior. Other family favorites include The Beatles Birthday song and Katy Perry’s Roar, and most anything from Bruno Mars, among others.

What’s your jam?

This. Is. Everything.

July 8, 2017

Made you look! This is NOT everything. Nothing is everything.

Stop trying to taunt me, internet people, with your headlines and comments that THIS is, in fact, the funniest thing on the internet, the most important comment I’ll ever read, the utmost online shutdown ever. It is not. None of them ever are, nor will they ever will be.

Yes, there are funny people on the internet. There are horrific trolls, and dumbest of dumb comments. But when you read someone’s personal blog and comment “this is everything,” really? I mean, really?

Click bait. Fake news. Call it whatever the hell you want. Yes, I believe you possibly snorted milk out of your nose when reading. I believe a tear or two fell from your eyeballs when you watched it. I believe you reacted strongly. I also believe you may react as strongly to something you see in two days.

Please, PLEASE, please, stop trying to convince me it’s the BEST, WORST, FUNNIEST EVER, EVERYTHING. It is, in fact, not.

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