Would I lie to you?

When a friend or acquaintance asks how you are doing, what’s new with work or how you are feeling, the true answer is not always a positive one. 

For some people, lying comes easily. For others, these are trivial or unimportant questions and so the answers require the same level of care. 

But maybe you don’t like to lie. Even a little generic answer feels dishonest with someone with whom you have any kind of relationship. And so you answer honestly. I’ve been getting a lot of migraines recently. I lost my job and am stressed. 

Have you then become a complainer? And if you don’t want to come off like a complainer, do you become an explainer? Because more information will validate your answer. And then you’re down the rabbit hole.  

Don’t go down the rabbit hole. Avoid it. It won’t win you any self-esteem points, nor will it avail you of winning friendships.