On commitments and gentleness

Keeping commitments. Holding promises to yourself. Its important. When you ask other people to participate by reading, answering, looking, you have involved them then in your commitment.

Being gentle with yourself. Acting kindly to yourself is essential. We all need loving kindness, even if on some days it only comes from ourselves.

And what if being gentle with yourself involves breaking a commitment to yourself? Am I being obtuse? Incoherent?

What I mean is, if the need to be gentle with yourself causes you to break a commitment that you made to yourself, with which other people may or may not now be involved, is it OK? Or is this not the time nor place to invoke said gentleness? Is this not the time to be kind to yourself, to cut yourself some slack? Because, dammit, you made a promise.